Alright. Don’t bite my head off after this and call me ignorant.. well I mean, you can if you want to, I really don’t care. But I really believe that I believe in what I’m about to say.. (Having some of the issues I have.. I do have to say that I Believe that I believe in something.. sometimes what I think isn’t what I think.. but.. That’s neither here nor there..)
So, the majority of this was a couple texts I just sent to a friend.. After being ask a question that I actually get ask fairly often for some reason, and Never have an answer for.
She asked, “What has been the most embarrassing moment in your life?”
I had no answer, of course. So she continued to prod. “Oh, come on, there has to be something.” etc, etc. Until finally surrendering with, “It must be nice.”
Well… At that point I just had to share my little secret of just how easy it is.
It’s simple really. What you do.. Is.. Instead of caring what everyone thinks.. You don’t.
I think had to go on to explain that I believe it’s the root problem of the Majority of what is wrong in America, and even the world today.
I’ve been thinking a lot about all this stuff in light of recent events I guess. Just several stories I see in the news about all sorts of thing. (direct excerpt from text as follows. I’ll try to correct but bare with any issues in voice and direction, as well as language.) [ But the one that really just gets to me is all this stuff about this big is beautiful blah blah blah.. Oh. What the fuck ever.. Who cares… It’s not to some people. It is to others. You can’t force people to think something is beautiful when they don’t.. Some people think ferrari cars are beautiful… Some people think monster trucks are beautiful.. But America is so focused with everyone thinking Everything is beautiful. So what if a guy doesn’t think a girl is beautiful.. The issue isn’t the guy thinking that. The issue is that America tries to teach everyone that if you aren’t socially accepted and considered perfect by every person you meet then your life is invalid. Which is what causes a lot of bullying about shit too.
People are generally Assholes because they try to focus the attention on the “faults” of others instead of themselves. People mask their own insecurities which they have because they’re taught that it matters what everyone thinks.. By calling attention to “faults” in other people, which then give other people insecurities. It’s self replicating. With eating disorders.. It’s because people care what others think.. Then like their parents or friends tell them they’re overweight etc etc.. And they See people on TV who care about that type of shit… Advertisements shouldn’t aim to say big is beautiful and skinny isn’t.. (which is really what a lot of them say, although mostly inadvertently) Even if it’s successful they’re just create another group of people who are self-conscious. It should say. Be yourself and don’t give a fuck about what haters think because they aren’t perfect either.
Someone will love you for exactly who you are. And if you try to change yourself for the people who don’t matter you’re going to miss the ones who do and never be happy.
… Don’t get me wrong.. Health and appearance are two different things.. If you’re “big” to and extent of being unhealthy.. Then yes something should be done.. But if you’re big and healthy or skinny and healthy or whatever and healthy then be that.. Obesity affecting health.. And “being fat” in relation to appearance are vastly different. And that goes for other “bad” things as well. If you’re a drug addict, don’t be like well that guy said stay the same cause someone will love me. Bad things are bad things.
Furthermore, I believe it’s what causes problems with race. And homosexuality. And essentially everything else if you get right down to the roots of things. People are taught from young age that it matters what people think. Reinforced consistently by the sheer fact that basically everyone is judgmental of them. In this sense they’re taught to be judgmental through actions and speech, simply by watching the world around them.
I’m not a psychologist or master brain world doctor of anything or whatever. So I’m speaking from experience on what I’ve seen and personally experienced (in life.. television isn’t real people.) If a bully calls someone a stupid face every day and it bothers them, then the bully will most likely continue in this course of action. Generalizing here, bullies feel better about themselves by hurting others. If they did this every single day the person being bullied just doesn’t give a shit, then it typically ends. Because they’re getting nothing from it. in seemingly more rare cases it could cause the bully to lash out with physical violence because they aren’t getting the attention and satisfaction they desire. In which case they should be severely punished. Because caring about words and caring about getting his in the face are two different things. But as far as not caring or letting people’s words get to you. It’s why I’ve never been bullied about anything.. (except by my father.) because I’ve never cared what they really think.. (and at this point I don’t really give a fuck what he thinks either because he’s the one who’s caused me most of the pain in my life and told me I wasn’t good enough.)
It’s the same thing with race.. If 2 people are as petty as to hate each other for the color of their skin and you Force them to try to get a long.. Shit is gonna go bad… Just leave it alone.. Trying to force acceptance of everything doesn’t work for everyone. The way I see it, if two people don’t want to get a long, then let them go their separate ways. Human interaction doesn’t generally involve the ‘throw ’em in the deep end approach.’ … Quite frankly because there’s no ‘lifeguard’ that can fix the issues if they can’t swim. If you look at animals, introducing two cohabiting animals for the first time, generally works best in an entirely new environment, where one doesn’t feel like they’re being forced to share something that’s already theirs. Regardless though, 2 animals aren’t just thrown in together and hope for the best. There are slow, and careful introduction protocols to avoid tearing each other apart. That’s just they way life is. There are a lot of issues that need working out long before people are just forced to deal with each other. I believe the same is true in many commonly brought up examples like Christianity and homosexuality. Christianity gets twisted because ‘Christians’ grow up in this society and are taught hate instead of the love of God that the Bible teaches. And then problems are created because of that. It’s a lot to overcome, and people are too often influenced by the biggest child of all this, greed.
It’s just a big web. This greed and self absorption comes right on the heels of all this. And a lot of ‘Christians’ use Bible merely as their “fire insurance” and don’t actually read the majority of it, nor live the life by it. Which is why you constantly here these things in the news about it. Which gives everyone a stereotype of Christianity. WHICH IS BAD.] ..
Here’s another hard truth, takeaway for you. (The reader here)
Stereotypes are bad.
Mmmmkay? White people aren’t all racist. All whites aren’t successful. Some white people have rhythm. Black people aren’t all criminals. All blacks aren’t good at Basketball. All black’s aren’t well endowed. Jews aren’t all rich misers. Christians aren’t all hateful bigots. Christians are not all homophobic. Muslim’s aren’t all terrorist. Japanese people aren’t all super engineers. South Koreans aren’t all gamer nerds. (Maybe..) “Asians” aren’t all good at math. They also don’t all know kung-fu. American’s aren’t all Homer Simpson. Mexican-Americans aren’t all illegals. English people don’t all have bad teeth. Irish people aren’t all drunken brawlers. Canadian aren’t all super polite. Most of them don’t say Eh. Native-American’s don’t all love to gamble. Italian’s aren’t all in the mob. Blondes aren’t all stupid. Redheads aren’t all gross, soulless, seductive, philandering, ill-tempered, gregarious, noisy, untrustworthy, snobby step-children of former relation to Satan. Feminine men are not all gay. Gay men are not all feminine. Masculine women are not all lesbian. Lesbian women are not all masculine. Skinny people are not all anorexic. Big people are not all gluttons. (Breaking news, genes play a role in physical appearance which Includes size!) … I’m gonna stop.. You get it… if you don’t. Let me know.. I Will continue.
[Some people just hate everything different from them. It’s the same type of thing. They’re taught judgement, and so they get the ideal in their head and judge everything else.. Often hate stems from fear. And so physical attacks come because they don’t know how else to respond. Or because it’s what they’re taught is okay. And at this point in history all of this has continued for so long.. That it’s the way it all is. It’s just the way life is to most everyone. And “they” write history books to reinforce hatred. By adding more oppression and such. I’ve compared actual historical documents as well as personal interviews with things I was “taught” in school, and have found major discrepancies. Just like the news, for some reason they like to add more drama to history that often existed, and the remove the things they don’t like. BUT, Even if it were all true.. How is telling anyone “that man’s 10x great grandfather May have killed your’s” going to add love into the world? And the fact that people are taught to stay bitter about it. It just adds more and more. Instead. Everyone should teach their children to love others. And if you don’t like something about someone else, don’t say anything mean, and just don’t be around the person. You don’t have to accept everything in the world. You can love someone without agreeing with them. And you can see a person without pointing out their flaws. It is possible. Despite what most people believe.]
So the real point is. Don’t Care so much what everyone thinks of you. And don’t be judgmental asshole to everyone else either. Most importantly.
Love yourself. For who you are. Not who everyone else thinks you should be. And love everyone else. Because they have the same struggles you do.