In talking to a very good friend of mine. I was discussing with her these things which I collected for myself last night. And I realized that.. I had, in my desire to keep my last post from being even more ridiculously long, left out a very important part of what I was trying to say – I think. And Though I don’t think I’ll ever be able to restate it as elegantly as the first time I crafted this theory. I will Outline it here.
There’s two types of relationships as far as I’m concerned. Two that matter anyway.
Type #1. My Category #3. FIREWORKS.
Relationships that are like fireworks are the short-lived, fickle, for a purpose relationships. They’re Fun. They’re great. Fireworks. It ignites. Bright colors. A flash. So pretty. So beautiful. So bright. They light up the night sky. Then they are over. That’s the firework relationship. You meet them. It’s great. (And both of these can apply to friendships, lovers, whatever.) It’s strong. It’s bright. It’s passionate. It’s all there. It’s like.. all day every day. Or you want to talk to this person. You want to get together with them. You meet them at a party and you want to party with them every night. But then You realize.. This relationship has nothing more to offer. It was fun while it lasted. But it’s just over. The Infatuation relationship. You know what I mean.
Type #2. My Category #2. CAMPFIRES.
These are the long lasting. The easy ones. The eternal ones. The ones that will always be there when you want them unless you forcefully extinguish them. And even then, there’ll be remnants of it. Campfires. They’ll be there for you. And they have a lot to offer. They’re not as bright or as beautiful. They don’t light up the whole sky. They don’t flash with every possible color. But they are there. They offer warmth. They offer a place to make food. They offer a light just for you. Where it matters. They offer protection from the wilderness. As such is the Campfire relationship. These people are there. You know each other very well. There may be a place when the fire first gets going. It will have it’s ups and downs but its going to be there. These are easy. Even when you’re apart for a long period of time. In a true relationship like this it won’t matter. You add a log to the fire and it comes right back. These people will always be there for you when you truly need. Once again, You know what I mean.
Everyone has experienced both of these things. We all love fireworks. We love the relationships. People love new things. But when the new wears off they just don’t feel good anymore. It happens.